Helping Your Child Manage Conflict Respectfully

Conflicts are a natural part of growing up, and learning to handle them constructively is a vital skill for children. At Mount Carmel, we emphasise the importance of resolving disagreements in ways that uphold our core values and procedures, including our "hands-off" rule. This ensures a safe, respectful, responsible, and inclusive learning environment. To maintain this standard, all students are required to adhere to the  College framework dealing with respectful relationships, which prohibits any physical contact or behaviour that may harm or disrupt the wellbeing of others. Here are some ways you can support your child in managing conflicts effectively:

Teach the Power of Saying "Stop"

Encourage your child to use clear and assertive language when addressing conflict. A simple yet firm "Stop" can often de-escalate a situation before it worsens. Role-play scenarios at home to help your child feel confident in using their voice to set boundaries.

Practice Walking Away

Sometimes, the best way to handle a heated moment is to remove oneself from the situation. Walking away is not a sign of weakness; rather, it’s a proactive step to prevent escalation. Teach your child that it’s okay to step back and take time to cool down before addressing an issue.

Encourage Reporting to an Adult

Children need to know they don’t have to handle conflicts alone. Remind your child that seeking help from a teacher, counsellor, or trusted adult is a responsible action, not "dobbing or snitching." Assure them that adults are there to listen and provide guidance in resolving conflicts.

Reinforcing the Hands-Off Rule

The "hands-off" rule at Mount Carmel is in place to ensure that all students feel safe and respected. Physical actions, even when intended playfully, can quickly lead to misunderstandings or harm. By focusing on verbal communication and non-physical strategies, students can resolve conflicts in ways that reflect maturity and respect.

A Team Effort

Your role as parents is crucial in reinforcing these values at home. By modelling respectful conflict resolution, praising your child’s efforts to handle disputes peacefully, and maintaining open communication, you help build their confidence and resilience.

Together, we can equip our young people with the tools they need to navigate conflicts constructively and thrive in a community built on mutual respect.

Mr Simon Huntly & Mrs Theresa Moore

Pastoral Care & Wellbeing Coordinators